Nina A Spencer – The Chaotic Mum Mentor. Mum Of Twins Twice! Placenta Accreta Survivor, Mental Health Champion, Wild Swimmer, Allotmenteer, On a simple living Journey filled with adventure and travel . Embracing The Imperfectly, Chaotic moments of motherhood.
Last week I took the children for their first swimming lesson at the local swimming pool.
It’s the first time they have been in the pool with only an instructor and other learners.
I had a lot of anxiety sat behind a window watching them fool around in the water. I swim, I love swimming and I know they need to learn but it doesn’t stop me worrying!
The teacher gets in the water with them. they seemed to enjoy their lesson I think it helped that a school friend of theirs was there too. Talking to the school friends mum helped take my mind off of my anxiety.
I know that in the long run I will feel better knowing they can swim and get out of difficulty especially as we holiday on a small island and love our beach days.
I think the only thing we can do is teach our children how to respond to difficult situations and try to teach ourselves too!
Swimming is just one of the things I worry about as a mum.
Sat behind the window I could feel my heart leap every time they looked like they were falling. But do you know what they stayed upright.
I’m sure I’m never going to stop worrying about them and even if I get over the swimming worry there will be something else to worry about!
My anxiety doesn’t just stop at the children’s wellbeing I also worry about my own health!
My heart often leaps when I find a new symptom and then I worry I worry its something worse than it is. I worry that if I go to the Drs I will be wasting their time!
I think I’ve always had a little bit of anxiety, however when my children came it became more apparent. The responsibility of looking after them lies solely with me. Ok my husband has a responsibility too but I think as mothers we are the first call when things go wrong.
I have found some ways of coping with my anxiety and not letting it get me too down but sometime there is a blip!
I love having a snuggle in bed with my twins and then when they have fell asleep the feeling I get when I pick them up to move them and they put their arms around me tightly and snuggle in. Then I lay them in their own bed and they say Thank you Mummy I love you.
Being lost in my children’s world even if only for the moment. Getting down to their level and playing with toys or doing some drawing. I totally forget the to do list and my worries and we just play. I follow their imagination and they help me regain mine! I just love it.
I have recently joined you tube and one of the reasons is my stepson – Although we don’t have as many special moments we have found something that is a common ground for us! He is a teenager so often doesn’t interact with anyone let alone me! So If I ask him for help with something to do with cameras or YouTube related it often gives us a shared moment!
Our twins are constantly growing up and witnessing a proud moment with my husband really connects us! It can be that Jake has been given an award at school or that Melody has just learnt to spell a couple of words. I Know I look at him and he looks at me with pride. Proud that we made those children together!
Finally we have a brilliant group of friends that we only met after we had our children.. In this time we have shared many moments together from us girls all going camping together to watching all four of our children playing together without squabbling!
These moments I’ve mentioned above often hit me by surprise and bring me to tears! Other times they don’t register until afterwards.
They are moments that build who we are as a family and moments that I hope my children will remember fondly.
They are definitely moments I want to treasure forever – Children don’t stay young for long and we have to make the most of these precious moments because before too long we won’t be able to pick up our sleeping child from our bed and I’m sure they won’t hug as tightly.
On Thursday The kids went to holiday club, I headed to Bannatynes Gym and I joined for a months trial.
Have you seen the Miranda episode when she try’s to quit the Gym?
Well it felt a little like that.
I may have only signed for a month but if I don’t give a months written notice from the first of the month then they will continue your membership and take the next month payment out! (I had joined on the second so already I’m past the cut off date to hand in my notice – So I decided to see how I go and write out my letter for July so in effect I will be having a 2 month trial) It may be I don’t need to cancel and that I will continue for a full 12 months.
Anyway, I’ve joined I’m now a member of a proper gym!
I have to say it wasnt as bad as I thought It wasnt full of toned size 6’s or even 10’s There were normal people like me and you (I’m Not saying you’re not a size 6 -10) (Or in fact that your normal?!)
I only had time for a swim that day but next week I’m going to check out the running machines & Sign up for a zumba lesson.
I really love zumba and I can really tell a difference in not just my anxiety but also my fitness!
After my swim I spotted a scales The type that take your hight weight Calculate your BMI & Check your fat percentage.
I thought New month New gym Lets take a reading today and check again after a month to see if it has made a difference.
So here are my stats For June.
Check back Next month to see how I get on
In the meantime If you have been thinking about joining a gym why not have a tour and maybe sign up to a months trial or even a day pass – but just check those terms and conditions. :-/
It’s not a scary though as I thought it was going to be!
We thought it might be busy thus creating stress but when we got in I was surprised although it was busy its well spread out and there was plenty of room for everyone.
They have also introduced a new catering facility which minimises “Hangery Stress”
There is so much more than butterflies here and in fact the park belongs to The British & Irish Association of Zoos and Aquariums (BIAZA)
The children really enjoyed the animals and asked about them!
They also enjoyed the Play area 😉 Well it can’t just be about the animals can it!
The staff are friendly and the facilities are clean I would recommend it as a day out if you live near – We travelled around half an hour and will definitely come again!
Throughout the day there are different animal experience , From Meerkat feeding to a parrot display You can even pay extra for a VIP experience where you can get exclusive access to some of the animal enclosures.
Afterwards we decided to go to Meadowhall for dinner (It is a 20 min drive away)
We enjoyed a Spanish vibe at Tapas Revolution It’s great here most of the staff are Spanish it’s great for people like me who want to practice Spanish or learn a little.
We had a great Bank Holiday Monday What did you get up to?
I have not been rewarded for this post and all of the opinions are my own!
This week is BIAZA Love your zoo week What zoos have you been to in the holidays?