Lone Parenting – Pros & Cons

So hubby has gone away to work again!

Every time he works away the week or two before his mood dips and my anxiety heightens.

So I’m on my own again! It’s only a week this time and I know there are some out there that are single parents all the time! There are some out there whose hubbys are away 6 month’s at a time!

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But pros and cons of being a lone parent!

 Pros

  • I can watch tv at all hours of the night! – Sometimes when I can’t sleep I like to listen to a sitcom like Miranda or not going out. but when hubby is fast asleep I don’t like to put tv on!
  • Snuggles in bed with the kids – Okay we have snuggles most nights but when it’s just us I love that they fall asleep snuggled up to me! we chat about our day and plan what we are doing tomorrow!
  • I tend to read more when hubby is away – I can grab a cuppa and a book and sit and read once the kids have gone to sleep.
  • There is more hot water – one less bath means more hot water for me to have a bath!
  • Less washing – Hubby goes though more clothes a week than the kids!

Cons

  • I feel very alone at night – once I’ve locked the door I know the only people I’m going to see is my kids and although I love them lots it’s no substitution for my hubby!
  • I tend to eat rubbish when hubby is away  – It’s no fun cooking meals for people who would rather have a happy meal!
  • Reassuring hugs & kisses – If I have a bad day when hubby is away There is no one to hug away the bad feelings of the day!
  • I don’t really sleep very well when hubby is away – Despite sometimes having sleepless nights anyway, when hubby is away he tends to be in a different time zone and somehow I adopt that time zone too!
  • My anxiety goes through the roof when hubby is way – My brain is on over drive with what ifs.
  • There is no-one else to put the kids in bed – If the kids fall asleep not in bed I have to be the one to carry them to bed!
  • I feel sad that hubby is missing things – The kids do something that makes me proud, or we make a memory together , Hubby is missing them.

I miss him when he is away!

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I will get through the week, I will miss him then he will be back and I will be moaning about him again within days!

 

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Wicked Wednesday – I want to go to the fireworks!

 

At the weekend the kids bugged about going to a bonfire and seeing some fireworks they asked all evening on the Friday and then all day on Saturday.

So I checked google to see what local events were happening about!

We found one at a pub  so we headed out and met up with our friends.

Once we got outside J wanted to go on the pitch black play park where there were loads of big kids – I wasn’t really up for this. I could barely see so I said no!

he was not happy about this and whinged all the while!

M loved the bonfire but as soon as the fireworks started she moaned the bangs hurt her ears.

So we had one moaning she wanted to go as they hurt her ears and one moaning now because he was too cold!

We stayed to the end with much protesting!

I just have to say kids it was your idea to go out!


We ended the evening with a hot cuppa & snacks at our friends house chatting in front of the roaring fire.

It made up for the moaning!

 

Thins post is linked on Brummy Mummy of 2’s #wickedwednesday 

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November Blogging / Vlogging Plans. 

Hello November.

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This month I am attending the mumsnet BlogFest event!  I am hoping to pick up lots of inspiration for my blog!

I am scrapping Screen Free Tuesdays as I didn’t have much inspiration on this front!

So to the plans

November 12 months of Christmas 
6th –  Advent Calendars
13th – Elf On The Shelf – Ideas & Planning
20th – How to survive a Christmas Market
27th – Dec The Halls

Linkys

Wednesday – Wicked Wednesday Linky from Brummy Mummy of 2

Friday – Cuppa of the week.

Sundays through until Christmas- 12 weeks of Christmas.

Blog Plans for November 

3rd Its just too much

14th – Lone Parenting Pros & Cons

21st – Black Friday – Tips for myself

24th – Meet Other Mums Post – She Went into Labour

As always I may have extra posts if the mood takes it!

Don’t forget to follow me on wordpress bloglovin instagram and facebook to make sure you don’t miss out!

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Plan With Me

Tomorrow is Halloween and then it will be bonfire night that means christmas is next up on the calendar!

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We have a very busy December so I like to plan a head and I always start by filling in a diary of big days in December We have 2 birthdays, a wedding anniversary and Christmas day

Then I put down all the events we have planned

This year we have J & M’s birthday party, a christmas party we are hosting , a trip on a santa train, village lights switch on, xmas eve meal,

When all events are in I’m ready for writing up a gift list!

Writing down everyone we buy gifts for.

Next up are any menu plans for dinners or parties we are hosting.

We have our main Christmas dinner on christmas eve so I write-up a rough plan of what I’m cooking.

When food is taken care of I will go to pinterest and magazines and look for table decor ideas.

Also When I’m planning Christmas I write-up a plan of any household  jobs that need doing before the big day.

At the moment one job is to finish off the downstairs shower room. So paint and flooring are ordered and finishing it is on my agenda!

I also like to have a rough plan for Elf On The Shelf

This year I want to do something a bit different with Elf On The Shelf. More on this in a separate post!

That’s about it!

So let’s get planning!

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Shopping List Wish List!

It’s Sunday so I’m back with another 12 weeks of Christmas post

This week is a wish list of things to help the festive period go smoothly.

  • Cutlery
  • Table Decor
  • Place Mats
  • Christmas Eve Baskets

Thats my shopping list at the moment.

I will know doubt need loads more that this over the festive period.

I hope you can join me next week I will be doing a christmas plan with me!

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